4-9 “The act of resisting a thing is the act of granting it life"
4-9 “The act of resisting a thing is the act of granting it life"
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> You cannot resist something to which you grant no reality. The act of resisting a thing is the act of granting it life. When you resist an energy, you place it there. The more you resist, the more you make it real—whatever it is you are resisting.
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> What you open your eyes and look at disappears. That is, it ceases to hold its illusory form.
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> (CWG 1:71)
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In *Conversations with God*, two important points are offered regarding what to do when we find ourselves in difficulty.
First, we are told: “Do not resist. Look at it.” What we resist grows stronger. Resistance feeds the very thing we are trying to push away.
In practical terms, this can be understood as refraining from frantic struggle and allowing ourselves to flow with life rather than fighting against it.
This does not mean passivity, but clarity. When we stop resisting and truly look at a situation, its exaggerated power often dissolves.
Second, we are encouraged to express what we feel on a daily basis. Joy, sorrow, frustration—whatever arises—should not be locked inside.
When emotions are suppressed, they stagnate. Over time they decay or erupt.
If we keep everything within ourselves, we confront our struggles alone and risk being swallowed by them. But when we bring a problem into the open—when we objectify it—we create space. And in that space, new paths naturally appear.
It is important to find your own method of bringing things outward. Writing in a journal is one powerful way. Speaking with someone you trust, or seeking counsel, can also help.
Psychologists sometimes suggest a simple but profound technique: add the words “I thought” to your reaction.
For example, instead of saying, “This is terrible,” say, “I thought, ‘This is terrible.’”
That small shift creates distance. It allows you to observe your experience rather than drown in it.
When you open your eyes and truly look, illusion loses its grip.
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